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Nerd Fun Boston

After hosting and attending 346 meetups since 2007* the time has come to step down from running Nerd Fun Boston

I started the Nerd Fun Boston Meetup in 2007 because couldn’t get my “normal” friends to go to the local events that I wanted to go to, so I figured I’d collect fellow nerds from the internet to go with me.  The first event that I hosted was a Michael Palin book signing, and no one showed – it was just me and my meetup sign. I went in to the venue alone and had a great time creating the lifelong memory of making Michael Palin laugh.

My second event was also a treat because people actually showed up! (See photo of boyfriend below, I met him that night. ๐Ÿ™‚ )  The Harvard – Smithsonian Center for Astrophysics was having their monthly public observatory night, and never having been I figured I’d collect some random nerds and go check it out. If you’ve never been I highly recommend going. Their monthly public lecture and telescope evenings are consistently the most popular Nerd Fun Boston events I’ve run.

And so it began… 11 years of connecting people to educational and otherwise nerdy events around town. It’s 2018 now and I can easily say that the Nerd Fun crowd has become my community. My world expanded by making new friends, meeting their friends, and then bringing them along for more fun. We’ve all learned new things, met new people, and relaxed knowing that this crowd is completely ok with you giving a damn about 18th century history, or natural science, or the Kepler mission, or the latest medical advances, etc.

The time has come for me to pass the reins to someone new. Times have changed, but the need for people to connect in real life is now more important than ever. So I hope others will pick up where I left off and continue to connect, educate, and entertain.

I do suspect that in the future I may be up for running the occasional event as there’s always something intriguing going on in Greater Boston. But personally committing to hosting at least two events per month is finally wearing on me as I begin focusing on new things.

I’ll finish below with some ideas and tips for running this or any Meetup group. But here is the most important thing that I learned from founding and running Nerd Fun Boston: the most rewarding experiences are the things that take the most courage to do.

Be well, stay curious, and Nerd On, <3

Heather

* ~ 2.6 meetups/month !?!

Things I know from running Nerd Fun

  • Nerd Fun Boston has the nicest, most intelligent, most authentic people anywhere. As a group our members see the term “nerd” and ignore the associated social stigma, “meh, who cares”. Instead they’d rather connect with people who are also intrigued with the world. They all get it, our conversations are rarely small talk. The name of the group, coined by my friend, Susan, self selects really great folk. I’ve seen other people roll their eyes and back away when I tell them that this here group of people is a Meetup group called Nerd Fun. They don’t want the association, and they physically step back. Self selecting. It’s awesome really.
  • Protect the email list. It’s a large group, nearly 15,000 people, and everyone who knows the first thing about “promoting an online bizness” finds the largest Meetup groups to spam the organizers to get their products and services in front of many people for free. I’m not gonna lie, I enjoy saying “no” to these people. I truly think people will leave the group en masse if the email list gets spammed. Protect it, for it is sacred.
  • Being an organizer is the best way to meet new people. The people that take that bit of courage, step up and rally other people to attend a lecture, tour, walk, or event enjoy themselves while being themselves and always end up with a crew of new friends. I’ve seen this over and over.
  • Keep politics out of the group. No political events. Nope. None. It’s everywhere else, that’s not what we are here for.
  • Run events that you’d be going to anyways. If no one shows up you won’t be disappointed. My first event going to see Michael Palin is an example, I would have gone anyways, and had a great time regardless.
  • Find events everywhere. Surf the calendar pages of the local colleges that we’re lucky to have here in Boston. Check out the calendars of the local museums. The walking tours at Boston by Foot, Historic Bostons, and the National Parks are spectacular. Fred Hapgood emails a weekly list of lectures around town and has a great list of sources at his website. People that run events love having interested people in attendance, don’t be afraid to reach out and tell them you’ve got a group showing up.
  • The organizer has to attend. Don’t leave people high and dry. It’s a responsibility. It’s worth it. But it’s a responsibility.
  • People are not good at RSVPing reliably.  People always have a hard time committing to attending. We had a forum post about it with a good discussion of why people RSVP yes and then don’t show up. It comes down to people “wanting to have gone” to an event but not having the will to show up. I mean, we have some shy people, I get it. Also I am aware some people may show up and then not feel strongly about connecting to say “hi” to the group. I’m convinced there’s nothing you can do about how members RSVP, so I tried not to let inconsistent attendance bother me. When in doubt, expect 12 people will attend. It’s usually 12 that attend anyways, no matter how many people say they’re going.
  • Meetup.com is changing. Social media has so overtaken our discourse in the past ten years that people are reacting to sites like Meetup differently. Also, since WeWork bought Meetup they have taken on the “upsell” business model. They took advertising space away unless you upgrade. They mismanaged turnover, the site is a hybrid bug-fest now. The old stuff is there, the new stuff is pinned on over it, the app tries to hang on to the pertinent info, email goes out unreliably… it goes on. In short: Meetup in 2018 is not as fun as it was in 2007. When I bring people on a walking tour and get people talking it’s still the best. But lectures and bar talks are chaos, connecting with people at such events nowadays can be difficult. I don’t know the answer here, other than wait and see how Meetup.com adapts.
  • Courage = Rewards. To reiterate, personally, the things that I have done that have required the most courage have turned out to be the most rewarding. Starting and running this group took a bit of gumption, I had more than a bit of doubt as to whether it was worth the trouble. Ultimately, there is no question that my life is worlds better than it would have been had I not started the group. No question.

19 thoughts on “Nerd Fun Boston

  1. Dear Heather,

    We thank you for your hard work for this great amount of time while you carried on with your professional life, your music, and your personal life. We are grateful for everything you have done. We are better for having you and your work as part of our lives.

    Rose

    Rose A. Doherty, President Emerita
    Partnership of Historic Bostons

    Rose
    Rose A.

    1. Thank you Rose, don’t be surprised if you see me at one of your Historic Bostons events in the future – with or without some extra meetup people. Thanks for having such interesting events to attend. – H

  2. Thank you – youโ€™ve done SUCH an awesome job!

    Good luck in everything you do!
    All the best,
    Maureen

    1. Thank you Maureen! – H

  3. Hi Heather, Thank you for the nice email and the blog post. I’ve been in Nerd fun since 2008 and I think you know I used to run a group too. I totally get that these things follow a course and there is a time to say goodbye. I hope, and suspect I will, see you around Boston one of these days at some event or another. Thank you for all the fun events and work you put in to the group – Scott

    1. Thanks Scott, I’m sure we’ll end up at the same history event in town before too long. It’s always great seeing you, stay well my friend. -H

  4. Heather, thank you for starting the group and leading it for so long and with such creativity. I hope you enjoy whatever it is you’re going on to next. — Faith (Nerd Fun member and PR person at Harvard Museums of Science & Culture)

    1. Thank you Faith, and for your work at the museum. – H

  5. Best of luck Heather! I only went to a few events years ago trivia nights around the holiday time in 2009. But I enjoyed it very much. I wish you all the best in the future.

    Ms. Hadassah Havivah Zeltzer
    Tzedeck.com

    1. thank you!
      H ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Thanks for hosting Nerd Fun, Heather. I was an assistant organizer for a while before stepping back from Nerd Fun, and I always enjoyed hosting the public observatory nights at the Harvard/Smithsonian Center for Astrophysics. You may not even remember me, but that doesn’t matter! It was a fun group and probably still is! I just haven’t been to an event in a while.

    1. Thank you Marianne, of course I remember you. I’m sure I’ll see you again at Trader Joe’s or unorganized Observatory Nights. Thanks for being a part of it, – H

  7. Did you tell me this group was copied and modeled elsewhere and at least for a while was successful in other cities ?

    Great job – didn’t attend many for this group, but the 2 Meetup groups I created didn’t last very long…your gumption and dedication made it work I’m sure!

    1. I think Nerd Fun Atlanta is still going. Honestly I think the animated gif is what made the group successful, but don’t tell anyone. ๐Ÿ™‚ – H

  8. Thank you for organizing. I moved away and stopped going to Boston events but I do remember Nerd Fun fondly. I wish you the best!

    1. Thanks David!
      – H

  9. Thanks for the many years of fun and your amazing deducation. I enjoyed Nerd fun alot at the beginning. Lufe is too busy tgese days. Loved the tours and interesting places to visit and some lectures.
    You nade it great. Thanks!
    K

  10. Dear Heather,

    I’ve attended only about a handful of events of Nerd Fun since I joined it (8 years ago?), but thanks to your group, I felt like I found my people. I felt I belonged. I felt it was OK to like and do nerdy things. Thank you for founding this group. I wish you the best in your future endeavors.

    j.

    1. Thank you for being part of it.
      – H

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